How The NAWBO Mentoring Program Taught Me to Account For Life by Selina Schuh | NAWBO

How The NAWBO Mentoring Program Taught Me to Account For Life by Selina Schuh

“For the span of the mentoring program, we want you to set four goals for yourself: three professional ones and one personal one.” I was taken aback by this. What an odd request! I was used to setting professional goals for my business, but adding a personal one within that sphere? That was unusual.

So I set my professional goals (I was going to line up a number of speaking engagements, complete the draft of my book and get it published) and then added my bathroom remodel as the personal goal to my list. As we launched into the program, I busied myself with my professional goals and moved forward in a straight line. In October, my husband and I started the renovation project on our bathroom. We had planned to do it on evenings and weekends. This worked fine for a short while.

What we forgot to plan for was that once our part of planning and choosing new tile was completed, we were at the mercy of the workers who were going to work on the next steps. And of course, they were going to show up Monday through Friday. We also thought they were going to work fairly independently.

However, that was not the case. More than once the plumber showed up in the door frame my home office, waving a piece of pipe at me that was broken. Generally, this happened while I was in the middle of a phone call to set up the next speaking engagement or with a client.

And when a pipe was broken, the project could not be stopped until the weekend. It needed to be resolved right now. Almost daily, my husband and I found ourselves running to Home Depot to get the necessary parts while the tradesmen continued their work.

At first, I was getting increasingly stressed. This project was holding me back from my business goals. I reached out to my mentoring group and told them about my woes. My mentors pointed out to me why our personal goal was part of the list: Life happens and we need to make room for it. They counseled me to solely focus on the bathroom for the time being.

I sat back and took a deep breath. I looked at my commitments for the following two weeks and moved what I could, to be available for the workers. Once I did, things started flowing more easily and within two weeks, the hardest part of the project was done, and things were able to return to normal.

I left corporate America to help women create more deeply connected relationships, but also to have a more flexible life with my family. Being an entrepreneur gives me the freedom to adjust my time between family and business. What the mentoring program taught me is that we need to make space for our family even when we think of our business goals. Because events, such as remodeling our bathroom, tending to sick family members or helping out at school, will come up in our lives, whether we plan for them or not. So why not officially make them part of the plan?

Despite taking the time off for focusing on my remodel, I completed all four of my goals by the end of the year. In March, I published my first book, Becoming Your Own Knight in Shining Armor; A Guide to Love that Feeds Your Soul. I credit the mentoring program with helping me stay on target, advising me when obstacles arose and cheering me on past the finish line. This book took my business to a new level by increasing sales, as well as exposure. But the program had a more comprehensive effect on my life: it allowed me to make invaluable connections, opened my mind to new approaches and fostered deep, new friendships. I am filled with gratitude for having been part of it.

To find out more about the NAWBO’s award-winning mentoring program: click here

To learn more about Selina’s work, visit: Empowered Living Strategies

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